sex, relationships, dating, & intimacy
Education ➝ Holisticism ➝ Awareness
nicole schafer

Licensed Therapist + Sex, Intimacy, & Relationship Coach

Okay, who is she?

Nicole generally works with individuals on attachment, boundary issues, codependency, feeling comfortable in their skin, and exploring desires. She loves to work not only with individuals but with relationship partners (couples, throuples, polycules, etc.) on communicating needs, building emotional intimacy, exploring sexuality, and generally improving relationship health.

Her interests include relationships, sex, sexuality, attachment styles, holistic & alternative health, and spirituality. She approaches therapy and coaching with an emphasis on positive psychology and a bit of existentialism, but is ultimately person and solution-centered.

Nicole aims to provide a safe environment for open communication throughout your time together. She’s an extremely open book, incredibly non-judgmental, and always has a great sense of humor to add to sessions. She will help guide you and provide tools to navigate whatever situation is at hand.

She continues to invest in ongoing professional development surrounding sex, intimacy, & relationships, as well as holistic and alternative health & spirituality and, is a member of the American Counseling Association (ACA).

Coaching vs. Therapy

Coaching, unlike therapy, which primarily focuses on diagnoing and fixing problem to return to normal functioning, is all about exploring endless possibilites and becoming your authentic self. Coaching is a deep dive into self-exploration and can help you better identify patterns you may not see yourself, without relying on typical labels and diagnoses.

While practicing as a Coach, but with the credentials of a Therapist Nicole has freedom to create personalized programs that are tailored to your unique needs. In therapy, it's unconventional and usually not encouraged to contact or keep in touch with your therapist between sessions, whereas with coaching, you are recieving ongoing support. This means you can reach out to Nicole when things come up in the moment and you need assistance, making the working relationships and process more flexible and supportive.

Another and one of the largest advantages of Coaching is that it transcends geographical boundaries. Therapists are oftentimes limited to praciticing in one state without reciprocity, whereas practicing as a coach allows Nicole to work with you regardless of where you are located.

What She Paid For

Licensed Professional Counselor, IL
M.S. Clinical Mental Health
B.A. Psychology & Biology

The Important Stuff

Myers Briggs

INFJ
ISTJ
ISFJ
INTJ
ISTP
ISFP
INFP
INTP
INTP
ESTP
ESFP
ENFP
ENTP
ESTJ
ESFJ
ENFJ
ENTJ

Zodiac Signs

Aries
Taurus
Gemini
Cancer
Leo
☄ Virgo
Libra
Scorpio
Sagittarius
☾ Capricorn
Aquarius
☀ Pisces

Enneagram

1 Reformer
2 Helper
3 Achiever
4 Individualist
5 Investigator
6 Loyalist
7 Enthusiast
8 Challenger
9 Peacemaker

Birth Order

First child
Second child
Only child
Middle child
Youngest child

Love Languages

Words of affirmation
Quality time
Acts of service
Gifts
Physical touch

Human Design

Manifester
Generator
Manifesting Generator
Projector
Reflector